For me, one of the most important parts of the day is dinnertime. Not only because I love cooking, and I love to eat… but also because it is a guaranteed time to have quality conversation with my husband.
Sure, we live together, and we see each other everyday as we go about our own daily routines, but dinnertime on the weekdays where we don’t see each other is a time for us to relax, and talk about our day.
In the beginning of our relationship… I’d ask him how his day was… and I usually got a simple one or two word answer. He’ll do the same, and sometimes I’d elaborate a little more. Sometimes we’d eat in front of the TV.
Okay… most of the time.
Since being married, we have both agreed on dinnertime rules. NO eating in front of the TV, unless it’s takeout or we have a movie to watch. ALWAYS eat dinner at the table with candles. And, ALWAYS do the rose and thorn of the day.
For those of you who have never heard of that, the rose and thorn are the best and worst parts of your day. The rose being the best part, and the thorn being the worst part.
The rose and thorn of the day is something that means so much to me now. It’s an awesome conversation starter, and I learn more about S’s day than if he just gave me a one or two word answer. It’s so super important to me, and it’s something that I look forward to each and every night.
Sometimes, the rose could be the hug I got from S when he came home because the rest of my day was THAT crappy. Sometimes the rose and thorn of the day is not that exciting and no real quality conversation comes from it. But, most of the time… it makes for awesome conversation. It keeps us communicating with each other. It forces us to tell each other things that we might not have said otherwise. It helps him understand why I may be in a crappy mood, and vice versa. And I like that.
It’s something that I would also love to do when we start expanding our family someday. It’s a really cool nightly tradition.
Give it a try!