Perseverance by definition means to continue in a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no prospect of success.
Perseverance was the definition of my Wednesday night. Both S and I had horrible days at work, and came home promising each other to make it a better night. I was thankful that it was Wednesday because S has darts, which would for sure make his day better, and I was going to enjoy a movie and a glass of wine.
Then LIFE happened.
I was almost finished making dinner when S came home. He gets pretty dirty at work, and he took a while washing his hands. When he noticed the water in the sink wasn’t draining, he asked me if the sink had done that before. It hadn’t… not to my knowledge.
But tonight, it would. Just to make the day even more interesting than it had already been.
We sat down to eat dinner, and I just figured the sink would drain eventually.
Our apartment, as much as I love it… does not have a dishwasher. (This is on the top of my wish list for when we get a home!) So, I needed to wash dishes from dinner and all the pots and pans that I had used to make dinner.
S started plunging the sink. It was horrible, and gross… and the water was STILL not going down. By this time, he was going to be very late to darts, and he was not happy.
The next thing that he did involved a wire snake going down the drain to try to unclog, which failed. And then there were tools, banging, swearing, and FINALLY some slow, slow draining.
*insert glimmer of hope here*
Then, there was complete drainage, liquid plumber, and hot water… not to mention a lot of praying that this would be the end to our awful Wednesday!
The cool thing about this whole night is that I kept thinking about how thankful I was to have married such a patient, and HANDY, man. Yes, he may swear and throw things… but he kept his cool for the most part, and wouldn’t give up until he fixed the problem. Not to mention he also missed his darts game. =(
It is so important to me that we “smile through the bullshit” and just be thankful for what we do have during times of struggle. In last night’s case, we had each other, a horribly clogged kitchen sink, and a bunch of dirty dishes from dinner piled up on the counter.
It sucked, but we persevered. And I want to always be able to do that throughout life. I want to always make an effort to not let bumps in the road become major roadblocks.
I feel like both S and I make every effort to make our relationship fun, fresh and healthy. We try not to let the little things (like a clogged sink) get the best of us. I’ll be honest. Sometimes, little things do get the best of us!! We’re human!!
But, I was proud of us last night. I was proud of him. Being new to the whole “marriage” thing…I’m no expert, but I am sure that a lot of marriages fail because of those bumps in the road that turn into roadblocks. I never, ever want that to happen. Ever.
So for future reference… a clogged drain can be fixed with a couple beers, lots of laughs, turning an awful experience into a great adventure… and of course… LOTS of perseverance.